Get ur city to 200 points and start sending leaders of tribes on the servers u are on emails about joining them. Don't waste money on the game until u are in a tribe that can help u. Look at the map the person that has the most tribe city's near u work on getting into that tribe if that doesn't work restart and pick a area on the map u feel is safe at. Best thing to-do is build defense troops at the start of ur new city until u learn the game. Build a good standing relationship with ur neighbor is a good way in getting a cease fire